While You Were Out

While You Were Out9780142406281_p0_v1_s260x420While You Were Out

J. Irvin Kuns, Author

Dutton Children’s Books, Fiction, 2006

Suitable for Ages: 8-12

Themes:  Loss of a friend, Grief, Family, Hope, Healing, School

Synopsis: Penelope is about to start fifth grade without her best friend, Tim, who died of cancer during the summer. Not only is she dealing with the grief of losing Tim, she is also dealing with the fact that her quirky father will be the new school janitor. And her irritating next door neighbor, Diane, thinks she can replace Tim as her best friend.  Memories of Tim are everywhere, including the empty desk right next to her and their favorite oak tree near the playground. Finding a way to cope with her loneliness, she begins to write notes to Tim on her pink While You Were Out notepad, folds them and puts them inside Tim’s empty desk — “I hugged our tree today. I think it hugged me back.”  After receiving a mysterious note with a poem about grief on her desk one day, she realizes someone else misses Tim as much as she does.  Perhaps she will be able to survive fifth grade without Tim.

Why I like this story: J. Irvin Kuns has written a very sensitive and realistic story about grief, loneliness, hope, healing and the power of words that help a child move forward again.  Written in first person, Penelope is authentic, smart and beautifully expresses her feelings, mixed with some sarcasm and humor. Her overactive father is imperfect and embarrassing when he jumps rope and plays marbles on the playground. He acts more like a student than the janitor. The book does show how Penelope finds a way of moving forward after losing her best friend and schoolmate.  This is a very moving story that would help children deal with loss.

About Patricia Tiltonhttps://childrensbooksheal.wordpress.comI want "Children's Books Heal" to be a resource for parents, grandparents, teachers and school counselors. My goal is to share books on a wide range of topics that have a healing impact on children who are facing challenges in their lives. If you are looking for good books on grief, autism, visual and hearing impairments, special needs, diversity, bullying, military families and social justice issues, you've come to the right place. I also share books that encourage art, imagination and creativity. I am always searching for those special gems to share with you. If you have a suggestion, please let me know.

16 thoughts on “While You Were Out

  1. It sounds like a beautifully written book on a topic that sadly many kids need to deal with, Pat. I am curious as to who is leaving the notes and how Penelope comes to terms with her grief. You’ve made me want to read it 🙂

  2. You made me want to read this one now! Sounds like a beautifully written book on a tough topic for children. I’m curious about who’s writing poems back to her.

    • You would love the father who is kind and interested but totally embarrassing. He’s like one of the kids — he’s the comic relief! But, the bond between father and daughter very strong!

  3. Hello Pat! Thank you for stopping by my blog! It’s so good to hear from you! You have a new blog design too, and I love it! This book sounds wonderful. It would indeed be helpful for a child in that situation to read. Thank you for sharing. 🙂

  4. Nice review, Ms Tilton. The book looks like a good one. A sad topic that too many kids are faced with. Losing a best friend is soooo hard, no matter what the reason. And coping with loss on top of everything else preteens face can be really tough. Thanks for sharing.

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